Well it's fairly obvious to see why your sitch happened. One thing I thought was worth noting was that in your sitch you said "She has not always had a strong will". After how you described her as cooking, cleaning, keeping the family together even while you flaunted your EA and all the years of neglect, I think she had the strongest will amongst your whole family.
Right now she's just experiencing what she has been missing all these years. Any pursuing on your part is pushing her away because they are still your needs just like your EA and gaming habits.
Rather than being pushy, how about just showing her straight compassion? It sounds like you treated her really badly before, so any goodwill from you now is too little too late. Start off slow by showing genuine concern ... not because you think it will get her back, but because you honestly care for her.
I think she's picking up that you're just thinking of yourself again and that's going to push her even faster into the OM's arms. She knows what she's doing is wrong, believe me. Guilt is not going to get her back. Show her the compassion that you lost for her before and start showing her respect. Slowly at first so that you're not smothering her.
I feel that from what you've done to her in the past, it's going to take awhile before she starts feeling anything for you again, but it's not going to kill you to try.
Good luck.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
