I can honestly say that I didn't check up on her and see if her needs were being met. I was very selfish and self-centered for the last 8 years of our marriage. I cared more about making money and having fun with my boys or online with total strangers in a game than I did whether my W was happy or content or fulfilled.
I came around very quickly when the threat emerged that I would lose everything unless I acted, but it seems that it was too late. Now I would do anything to save my marriage, but my W is so deep into her new life that I'm not sure she can be retrieved.
Looks like you and I both have tickets on the Titanic...
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09