Good luck CL. I'm sorry she seems to be gearing up for another hissy fit. You did need to put your needs out there, it's not like they're UNREASONABLE or even UNDOABLE by any stretch.
FWIW, from an objective observer, she's following a pattern, almost like a choreographed dance: you make a request, she blusters and attempts to deflect responsibility, then it blows over after you lay (lie?) low for awhile. Maybe it won't blow over this time, but honestly CL: I think you're doing your part to help solve the problem, and unfortunately, you can't do it entirely on your own.
You don't have to demand all-or-nothing.
It wouldn't hurt to do what you can muster to increase the physical attention she is needing (I get keyed up and frustrated when I don't get enough attention myself, so I can kind of understand a part of where she's coming from, though if she's getting it elsewhere, I lose sympathy for her. Sorry.)...simple non-sexual touch can be enough to alleviate some of the anxiety.
