Cinders, It's not place to judge anyone and I certainly understand where you are coming from, but if you are not interested in him, it's best to nip it in the bud and let the guy know what he's just not what you are looking for in a long term relationship. If it continues for any length of time, it will be even more difficult to disentangle yourself from.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
