Quick update as I have been away from the board for a few days...
Well I am out of the house. Moved out over the weekend.
My W and I had a very emotional day on Sat as she was helping me pack everything up. At one point she broke down and started crying which broke me down as well. We had a honest conversation where she told me she was exhausted and just wanted some time to focus on herself for awhile. I told her that that was healthy and agreed with her.
She shared with me one of her main stumbling blocks in her feelings with me was how cruel to her I was after my EA was exposed. I agreed with her. It's true. I mostly listened and told her that this isn't what I want and I loved her. Although not classic DBing strategy, it was one of those times when it was appropriate.
Spent the weekend with my boys. It was nice. They took the separation hard.
After I left she is very engaging and draws me into conversation when I stop by her house to pick my things up.
She still has a friend that is in an EA right now that she spends time with. I am pretty sure she has no idea as the friend is covering her tracks like a CIA agent. Not very reassuring but I'm done worrying about it.
I am now detaching as much as possible from her to give it time to take effect. I am keeping as busy as possible and working out alot.
This is really tough. I miss her so much already. I will need your support and feedback going forward to make sure I don't backslide. no doubt this is where it gets really tough.
I believe I can rebuild with her but am prepared for the other alternative.
Thaks for being there everyone!
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
