Lol Jeff! Isn't that from My Big Fat Greek Wedding?! They don't have it over here as far as I can see. I went out and looked!
T - I found it, thank you!!! I went straight out at lunchtime! Am applying it now...
I wish I hadn't seen my brother and sister at the weekend - they took the p*ss mercilessly! No one is allowed to have an imperfection in our family lol! Mind you my sister was getting me back for laughing at her one the week before...
H did not reply to my text suggesting Wednesday so I sent him one this morning asking if he'd got it, I'm not scared to do this anymore. I'm not 'keeping it on hold' for him. It looks like Wednesday will be booked up soon... he'd better get his skates on or he will miss out.
Adzuki (sp?) beans...ground up and rubbed on face (they used to sell them as japanese washing grains in the body shop) you can buy the dried beans in supermarkets. Failing that, toothpaste! It actually works.
You said pretty good.. so, the guy that sent you the valentine, did you respond? Have you seen him more than the time you told us about where you went for that walk?? Just being nosey !!
Well done on sending a follow up text.. must be great to not be 'afraid' anymore to do stuff like that and yes, its a bit rude of him to have not replied.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I was so glad to read what you said about people using the LRT on the boards. I felt that the point of these techniques were to re establish communication and allow people to start over in positive ways. Instead, I feel I see a lot of people giving up when things don't go the way they want them to. No sitch is going to turn around on a dime or recover so quickly without a lot of work. I hear a lot of people giving up too fast and not sure if the work is really work on the R or themselves or just more of the same.
{{{JCJ}}}
This is not a comment about you, I don't know much about your sitch. I am sorry for cutting in here but I have been wondering about this idea for the past week and it sounds helpful.
{{{JCJ}}} Now that I have caught up- I noticed that you are still having feelings about your H. It's up to you to do what you want. You have options, you don't seem to like them - can you come up with any that might be a compromise or something different for you.
Seems that H may still have unresolved feelings as well. What do you want to do about that? What about talking to a DB counselor to assist in making any decisions? Maybe they can help you get closer to the information you need to decide what to do next.
I personally am setting goals like you suggested a long time ago. As things evolve, I am modifying the goals, making them either more specific and smaller. I modify the goals based on the results I see - noticing what works or what isn't working. I have long term goals and the modifications are on the short term ones - so the changes I make are still focused on the overall goal. Otherwise I think we could go afar from the reason we are here.
I hope this helps. If it doesn't forget it. If it does Go for it. Can't hurt anyone's feelings here. Hope I am not too nosey.
Julia, belated thanks for your help on my thread and checking in on me today!!!! I hope your complexion becomes clear as porcelain! I'm sorry your family made fun of your spot! My brother and I have a running joke about my "bindi zit"... a recurring spot just above my eyebrows.... a joke I also shared gleefully with B when we were together. I am not sure how I could deal with imperfection without humor!!!
thanks for sharing about people getting stuck in the LRT technique too. I have wondered about that myself as well and if I am just scared to actually put myself out there to try to be friends!
PS, can't believe you found the q10 so fast!! I hope they work perfectly!!! a friend of mine introduced me to them, she said they totally changed her life and now she doesn't have to wear concealer or base makeup anymore, just the fun stuff like lipstick and eyeliner.
(((Ali))) I'm smiling coyly here - the rose and card was from a guy that I met at a conference through work. I haven't seen the other guy since, I've been too busy and I'm not sure how keen I am on him anyway. I may give it one more try but there is no spark. As a teenager I used to always have toothpaste on my face when I went to bed lol! Ahh the memories!
(((Jeff))) you actually reminded me that I do need to clean my windows. I try but I am so undomesticated!
(((T))) where would we be without family humour! My brother grew up with huge complexes because he has three sisters to contend with regard to any imperfections - we three were all perfect obviously To be honest normally I don't wear any base make up, I just get the odd HUGE hormonal zit Argh! And its timing is perfect for this week - not! I bought a new sparkly eyeliner which is quite 1960s - I love it!
(((Ms M))) It was lovely to receive especially as it was so unexpected! I'm drying the rose so it lasts... just the smile I needed on that day. Makes me think there is hope for me yet
(((Kassie))) thank you, lots of food for thought, I really appreciate. I am thinking about your posts.
So H texted back saying he had problems with his phone - my, that phone plays up a lot, even now he has a new one it's ok, I do the same when I don't want to deal with him. He said he couldn't meet Weds evening but could do lunchtime. At first I didn't want that as it meant we would have less potential time together, but I realise this is an old cheeseless tunnel and whether we have an hour or three it won't make any difference. If he wants to spend time with me then he will. So I texted back that was fine and where did he fancy eating? He asked if there was anywhere near me, if not there was (our old fav chain restaurant). I texted back and tried a little familiarity - saying he knew me so well, that sounded fine and suggested a time. He hasn't replied but I assume the meeting is on tomorrow.
However goal achieved that I am no longer going up to where he works - he is making the effort to come to me. Good for the PMA. Feeling slightly sick at the content of the meeting but have good PMA at the moment and a new hot dress.
Good for you to have him meet on your turf. I think there is a time to meet on each other's turf. In the case of the W, when it is about making important decisions, it should be on yours. It helps you to feel stronger and it reminds him of his life with you separate from the rest of the world. It also shows that he is willing to meet you half way.
To be honest normally I don't wear any base make up, I just get the odd HUGE hormonal zit