So I spoke with STBXW on the cell the other morning and asked if her BF was going to be at our D's b-day party. She said no. He had never planned on being there with his kids. She said what she did because she was angry with me for even questioning if he would be there.
I don't believe her and either situation is just thoughtless. BF being at the party would be completely inappropriate. Her telling me that whole story if it weren't true is just cruel. I'm not sure which is worse.
On another topic, we've been working through details of a parenting plan. She didn't like what my lawyer had drawn up, so we put together an attachment with a few more details. I put a request in the plan that there would be no sleepovers with a BF / GF on nights with the kids. She questioned it at first, but eventually agreed and signed the document. I dropped off the kids with her this morning before work and picked up the signed, hard copy of the parenting plan, and guess what?? BF was sleeping in the other room. They had just returned from Florida the night before and he was too "tired" to drive back home.
I should have just taken the kids back to my house and had her pick them up after he had left. I did nothing because I didn't want to make a scene with the kids. I just don't understand her rationale or actions. We have a documented agreement with her signature and she already breaks it. I'm sure she'll rationalize that the kids weren't there the night before, but WTF!?! Personally, I think the person waking up at the apartment is far worse. I mean, would the kids really know if someone falls asleep at the apartment? Isn't it much more awkward for them to see this person come out of mommy's bedroom in the morning???
