My W's sister's confronted her about the A, and of course my W was upset. She emailed me a few days after and said that she wanted to tell her sisters "on her own time and in her own way." I think that translates to "I never wanted to tell them, and if I did I certainly didn't want to tell them the whole truth like you did!"
By jove, I think you're getting the hang of this stuff, SA. "BINGO" and "yep!"
Your response was perfect (honesty is always the easiest to deliver, isn't it?), and I think your plan is a good one. You can also use "Everything I've done, you may may not have agreed with, but I did it to fight for our marriage."
