What you said in your post in respose to Carlos' question has moved me nearly to tears. That's almost exactly why I still want to be with my W but I could never have worded it as well as you have. Here's me trying to be a writer too!! Lol. Thank you for those words.
Carlos, I can see your point too and respect you a lot for managing to find the strength to make the decisions you have regarding your sitch. It all just reminds me that although many have similar problems on these boards, no two situations are exactly the same. I can see many parts of mine split between many people's but I don't think I've come across anyone who is going through exactly the same as me. Some do come close though. This is what makes this site so invaluable. If you break each situation down in to small parts, there's always someone around who has been through those parts and come out the other side stronger for it. If you get advice on how to deal with even a small part of your sitch, eventually you will piece those together and have a great way of working on the whole. For example, PM, in describing why she still wants to be with her H, has unintentionally explained to me exactly why I still want to be with my W. Whereas, you Carlos, have taught me a lot about finding my inner strength to battle through this and to make me a better person regardless of the outcome.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
