My first step out of Newcomers

[Can it work]

Hey there PM. I can see what you're talking about by saying that interest from the opposite sex is just a fleeting feeling. Yes, I probably could have been with someone else on Saturday night but I never wanted to. In fact, nothing was further from my mind. It's not passion that I'm missing most about my separation. It's the day-to-day companionship that comes with being in a serious relationship/marriage that I really crave.

When my W and I were happy together, I too would feel a sense of pride if someone complimented my W. Now that we're apart though, I see it as a threat that so many guys took an interest in how she looked. I'm sure she won't rush in to anything serious though. At the end of the day I have to give her some credit for being responsible enough not to do that to Wee Man. I completely agree with you PM that a compliment from someone you love is worth 10 compliments from random people.

As to whether my W can find out that someone else was showing an interest in me, I imagine she probably will because there were a lot of her friends there seeing what was going on. In a way though, I'd rather she didn't because it was her best friend who was showing that interest. A random person I could handle but I think hearing something like that about your best friend would be horrible. She was chief bridesmaid at our wedding! In that respect, I believe she was flattering me, knowing that I went deeper than looks. She knows me very well. On the other hand, she'd also had a good fill of alcohol so that probably had a huge amount to do with it too. I'm just going to deny having any memory of any of it so as not to rock the boat.