Standing on the Edge

[AJM]

I feel for you native. I don't think you should believe her. Nor do I think it's time to date. For either of you. My thought is that once you start dating, that's the last sign before leaving the tracks for good. Biblically, you should not while married. Unless I missed the divorce? You owe it to yourself and your relationship with God but I do understand your anger and resentment and hurt. I've had similar thoughts.

Kenn. That statement was similar to what my WAS said to about my kids. It's BS. I do NOT think it a good idea for you to defend your wife with your daughter. You should commit to not saying bad things about her, but you need to let your kids vent about her. To her. They should be allowed to tell her what they think because otherwise you're teaching them bad habits about handling feelings and because you're building a teapot of repressed emotions.

Let her vent. Your W will listen. It's up to her to figure out what it means to her. You can't take that ride for her or your kids. The kids will do better if they can let that anger out where it belongs in my opinion.

Give it some time and space. Going dark wouldn't hurt for a little while. Then, when you feel like it, contact her again. Until then, let it soak.

AJ