I read your post about your daughter and wanted to give support. It is really tough when you see your children hurt. I know I will end up in a good place but it's really not fair for kids.
I have an eight year old daughter. I have been in this mess for about four months. In that time my daughter who I have about 12 days a month has;
-asked 4 times why she can't live with me and just have mom visit? - said mom is no fun and won't do any fun things with me - said all mom does is talk on the phone and won't play games with me
and the kicker is she won't go anywhere in my new place or her mom's (our old house) without someone with her. so I am standing in the bathroom while she brushes her teeth and looking in the mirror. I joke with her that I am losing more hair than normal. She tells me that on TV they were selling medicine to grow hair (LOL)and I should get some because ladies don't like bald guys. I told her I'll be okay and asked why is she worried about that? Her response was beacuse I want you to meet someone because I want a mommy and a family again in our house. (daggers in the heart!!!!)
The sad part is the next day wife and I have a talk which she turns into a realtionship talk and I tell heer she can blame me all she wants but now that I am out of the way she better not start to resent her daughter and she can be better. I tell her the whole story and her response? Our daughter is playing up this divorce for attention and needs to toughen up. WOW! Don't believe anything your hear right but that was the toughest thing said in our whole 4 month ordeal.
She has never been the most nurturing mom (very self centered and selfish) but she always adored our daughter. she has left this world on the crazy train. Sorry but it was impossilbe to validate that LOL
So native, not to vent on your thread, I want to give you support! So many dads out there adore and protect their kids. It's heartbreaking to listen to your child as they struggle to understand somehting that we can hardly grasp. You have my support and sounds like you are doing a bang up job!!!!
