That sounds about right. I don't know that I like the "kids will be fine" part.... I know that in the end they will be, but that almost makes it sound like it will be easy, and we all know better.
I completely agree with not putting each other down. I think the older two have enough awareness that they can handle that on their own. And I don't want to do anything to mess up the little one's relationship with their mom.
Both kids are changing schools next year, in any case. S14 will be moving to high school, and will be going to the same school in either case. S11 will be moving up to middle school, and if this does happen, he will be going to a different one than most, if not all of his current friends. But, he is really good at making friends, and he will be close enough to still see his good friends on weekends, just as he does already.
W has tried to toss the guilt trip of not following up on our commitments to the kids onto me again. It just continues to prove that she is content this way, and would rather not change it. So, I am going to have to do it. To me it isn't "either/or". I did tell her I would not continue this way. Then she questioned my commitment to the kids. That makes me angry. You know, if she was committed to the kids she could do something to try to make this work. Next time I might throw that at her, but I don't really look forward to World War III. And, I'm sure that in her mind she "tried" for years. I think cookie mentioned that on her thread..... nagging and complaining is "trying" from her (W's) viewpoint.
