Wow. Now don't tell me that isn't progress. Wow is all I can say.
It might get better and then worse as you have to sort out past feelings, but I think you're on the right course. Keep doing whta you are doing.
LMNW, I wish my H would have an awakening like yours. There was no affair in your sitch; in mine there is, but at least H is paying more attention to D.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D