I am glad that you have found the proof you were looking for. Do you think maybe it was a set up? Meaning, maybe she wanted you to find out before you left but didn't have the guts to tell you herself.
Be careful, she will find out at some point and you have to be strong when it does.... It may not happen tomorrow or even in a month but it will happen. Remember she is not the same person you love right now. Everything that you see and read are from this alien that has taken over.
My hope for you is that she will see how much you love her and your family and at what lengths you will go to keep it all together.
Good Luck my friend.
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08