Lan, The very same people who use abusive language like f**k off to their spouses will most likely also accuse their spouses of being abusive because their demands and expectations are not being met. I see this all the time on here. I didn't know how to assert myself when I was in this situation and I know I didn't have your patience for it at the time, I felt wronged and hurt and reacted defensively to this nonsense.
Getting an "out" Lan would come at a huge emotional and financial price. It will not be unconditional. Though I've seen a lot of people here take this cavalier attitude to divorce and separation when their spouse does not meet their needs at the moment. The commitment is lacking. Lan you do not lack that and that is why you are rising above the 'sitch'.
