Hey mister! I thought we were down to 'business/kids' talk only with the W. At least that's what *I* agreed for YOU to do...lol...
She's a big old mess, but YOU don't have to be. You can choose to better yourself, pick yourself up (even if it means with meds temporarily) and move on with your life. Don't let her drag you down, don't let her talk you into being the person she thinks you are, because you are not that person. You are much much better than that, solid gold actually. Don't let her view of you skew your own view of yourself.