I am so glad you are alright!!! How terrifying. Thank goodness you are ok. And glad W picked up the slack with the kids, and helped you out. I like that she offers to make your life easier.
Keep us posted on how the email goes over. Unlike many of the spouses on here, I really think she is in a position to hear you out, and maybe make some different choices.
Hi right back. So are you able to make more sales? Funny how you think of banking as helping get people what they need but the higher ups just see it as selling them everything you can whether they need it or not.
I know I was so distracted with everything last year at this time. I am happy to say that it does get better. It will for you too.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ldub, she's just not in a place in her life to make those choices. And by the time she does, it'll be too late. I'm really believing that.
Went out to dinner and a movie on Friday and had a good evening. Also hit the stores to get Valentines stuff for the girls. Also bought the last two books in the Twilight series for D11's(now D12) birthday on Sunday.
Funny thing. I got a message from a young lady I met last Saturday night. She found out I had FB and sent me a message. Today, I've gotten two friend requests from old high school friends. Ladies. I find that funny.
After work on Saturday, I found out the wife and the girls were out shopping and that she wanted to meet at Chic Filet.
I did send the email to her around 2am Friday night. I had figured out at work that she hadn't read her emails that morning. I had mistakenly thought that she had read it later in the day, but I was wrong.
She still has not looked at her emails.
At the restaurant, we sat for a bit. Chit chat a little. Found out that she had taken them shopping and gotten them some Valentine stuff, some shoes and other stuff. I asked if they had brought any clothes. Of course not. She tells me that we can stop by later or she can take some by house or we can meet later for their stuff.
We take off and go to Barnes and Noble for a while. The girls love going and just sitting and reading. D11 comes to me with the next Twilight book. I tell her that I didn't have enough to buy it but maybe next time She looked a little disappointed. We then head to the movies to see the Pink Panther 2. They enjoyed it, but it was a little too silly for me. Before the movie, D11 called her mom about the clothes. She told her that she had packed a bag for D7, but didn't know what D11 wanted, so we would have to go by the apartment to get the stuff. She also told them that she may or may not be there.
After the movie, we head to the apartment. They seemed kind of excited because her car was still there. I told them not to get their hopes up too high, because I figures she was picked up. I stayed in the car while they went in. After a few minutes, I got out to walk around a bit. I could see the neighbor walking to the apartment and back.
For a moment, I thought that if she was still home, I'd find out if she had plans or not. If not, we could go have dinner somewhere. You know me, I'm stupid like that.
I walk up to the open door and D7 lets me know that she IS gone.
"Momma went to the rodeo." "Really? How do you know?" "The neighbor said she went with a friend." "REALLY?" "Yeah, neighbor said she went with a friend, a girl, from work." "She said that, huh?" "Yup."
Inside, I noticed that she had moved her living room around AGAIN. She has always been that way. Cannot stand to have things the same way for more than few months. She's already changed her apartment around at least 4 times. She only been there 7 months. She had switched her entertainment centers from bedroom and living room. Last Friday, when I was there watching a video with them, I had to rehook up the video wires to the tv. She had just gotten her cable reinstalled again and they had messed up the wires. Well, she had the center in a totally different place and I checked the TV. The wires were messed up again.
The girls had told me that the neighbor had helped move the furniture with her. I fixed the wires for her and we left. On the way home, I sent her a text.
"Left apartment 20 minutes ago. Fixed the TV/DVD wires. Have a good time and be careful. Figure about 3 at Olive Garden tomorrow."
Never got a response from her. And at this point, I still wasn't sure if she had gotten the email.
We had a blast at home the rest of the night. Sunday morning, we went to church. Before we left, the wife called D12 to wish her Happy Bday. After church, we met my family at my grandmothers and had a little party for D12 and my sisters son, whose Bday is today, actually. I had to send the wife a text, asking if I should also pick up a cake. She sent back that she would get it.
At this point, I was nearly certain that she had read my email, but my cell "Snoopy" was incorrect.
We all met at the restaurant. I had called to make sure that S15 was going to be there. He had been at his dad for the weekend. The wife called us about 5 minutes from the meet time. She was there already and asked if she should put her name down. I told her yes and I could hear her say a table for 4. I told her 5. "Oh, do you have S15?" "No, but I told him about it and he should be dropped off. Haven't you spoken to him?" "No."
She hadn't made any plans to invite her son to our little get together. Good thing I did.
We all met inside. Waited for a while. I talked mostly to the kids and we were having fun together. We were seated and before sitting down, the wife took D7 to the restroom. All the kids sat next to each other leaving 3 seats for the wife and I. When she got back, she too the far seat and put her purse on the chair between us.
Remember, that I was thinking that she had read my email already. Part of my email included "The worse way to miss someone is to have them sitting right next to you, knowing that you cant' have them."
I figured that that was her way of not sitting right next to me, so that I don't have to miss her.
We had a lot of fun. She had brought a very pretty Valentines Ice cream cake from Baskin Robbins and had the restaurant keep in the freezer. They brought it out later and sang Happy Bday to D12. We gave her our presents. The wife had given her undies and little bra's and such. When she opened mine,
"OMG! Thank you, daddy! You got both of them! I think I'm gonna cry!"
My heart swelled. And if the wife was a little jealous, all the better. D12 came over and gave me a big hug. We finished up, I paid and we went outside. The girls were supposed to come back home with me and D12 was going to have her best friend spend the night. My buds daughter. The kids were playing rough outside and D7 got poked in the eye. She got pissed off and decided that she wanted to go home with her mom. I looked at the wife and asked if she had plans. She looks at me and thinks for a moment.
"Yeah....but thats okay. I'll take her."
I told D7 and S15 goodbye. She was going to take him back to his dads for one more night. I guess she had plans for the night, since she wasn't going to have any kids.
Awwwww.
Later at home, D12 and her friend were watching a movie. I called D7 on the wifes cell. The wife answered and I asked if D7 was asleep. She told me no and to hold on. I talked to D7 for about 15 minutes. She said that the neighbors were over and they were watching bull riding. I was making fun of them for watching that and mentioned that her sister and friend were watching a movie together.
She had forgotten about the friend and got mad for going to her moms. All of a sudden she was bored, that she forgot the friend was coming over, that she didn't want to watch bull riding. I told her that she could have been with us but she decided to go with her mom. I could hear the wife in the background asking what was wrong. Them going back and forth. I was trying to cheer her up.
Ends up that the wife sends the neighbors home, sits with D7 while she is talking to me about how bored she was and then asked to talk to me.
We talked about how tired D7 was and that she was ready to go to sleep. I told the wife that I was telling her to go to bed and that she could read a bed time story to her.
She starts to try to explain that D7 was fine before I called. They were watching bull riding, having fun blah blah.
"They always make me out to be the bad one." "What are you talking about?" I asked. "They are here and then they talk to you and all the sudden I'm boring and stuff. They never want to go anywhere..." "They do not do that. She's just tired" I tell her. "Well, were going to go to bed. I'm very tired myself." "Me too. I'm exhausted. Let me talk to her again." "Okay. Good night." "Goodnight."
I tell D7 goodnight and tell her to be a good girl and to have sweet dreams.
"Good night, daddy." "Good night, baby girl."
We'll see tomorrow if she's checked her emails. Not that it matters at this point. I just had some things to tell her and I'll just keep trying to pull myself back.
Y'all have missd these long ones, haven't y'all?
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
She looked a little disappointed. We then head to the movies to see the Pink Panther 2. They enjoyed it, but it was a little too silly for me. Before the movie, D11 called her mom about the clothes. She told her that she had packed a bag for D7, but didn't know what D11 wanted, so we would have to go by the apartment to get the stuff. She also told them that she may or may not be there. 
