Man, I cannot fathom how God is working, after yesterday's nastiness.
I had told W that I would keep the kids all day Thursday and Friday the week they are on spring break, and she could have the Mon/Tue/Wed. She texted me this morning as she ALWAYS does after I stand up to her on something.
She said she would be keeping the kids Thursday and Friday. I could tell where she was going so I said that was fine, I'd do Tuesday and Wednesday instead of arguing.
She said no she was going to pick them up those days too, so I responded that spring break was special time, and I was willing to split 2.5 days with her.
We went down a cheeseless tunnel for a bit on it - and I finally said I wasn't doing the power struggle, I simply wanted 50% of the time with the kids. Glad I put a stop.
W, as usual, when she didn't get her way, ended up doing personal attacks, but I took it as an opportunity to WITNESS TO HER!
W mentioned something about divorce, and she said: "You know I have no money. And I won't do anything with you without a lawyer. You are a sneaky man. You are telling the kids untrue stories about me and you and is strange. Something is wrong with you."
So I poured Jesus on her!
I said: "I never say anything untrue, I even tell the kids if I'm unsure about a memory. It makes me so sad and feel so sorry that you attack me when I've just been fighting for my family for 2.5 years, and been 100% honest with you. Nothing is wrong with me. I'm so happy, growing closer to God, loving my kids. I'm not angry, and have no desire to fight."
W said, "I am not a fighter, but I will always be guarded about you. I'm sure you feel the same way. The only thing I care about is that you care about the kids. Everything else is fictional feel good stuff that I am sure will pass always has. "
So I poured MORE Jesus on her: "I am amazed at the relationship I have with the kids - didn't realize it was possible. I don't know what you mean about fictional, but if you mean God, oh, W, it is so amazing to have something REAL. I can't believe I even called myself a Christian before - what I had was so shallow and self-centered."
W: "Good for you."
I just left it there...
What an amazing thing - to take a HORRIBLE day, then have her approach in her usual controlling manner, and SOMEHOW turn it into an opportunity to share God with her?
