But as for the list of items, whatever. I got a few of them back from W already, and I'm not going to die if I don't get them all back any how. As I told W in one of the emails today, her conniption fit over these items just proves to me how materialistic and petty she has become, not to mention willing to exploit her own children in an attempt to harm me further.
I have the opposite problem. D9 has hundreds of toys and stuffed animals and H gets her new ones every weekend. I wish she would have more toys over there, but he hauls them back every time. I think it's probably a good idea to have half at each location, although I know D9 always has one favorite she has to have with her all the time that needs to be moved. I think most kids have too many toys anyway, I had like a dozen when I was growing up and a good access to library books and I was fine with that. The only thing is if she is taking most of their toys instead of leaving half with you, maybe limit them taking some or most of their toys over to her house so they don't disappear. Couldn't you even explain to your boys that you want them to have half their toys at each house. My kids are pretty good at understanding stuff is there's a reason.
I think your Wii punishment sounds like ones I do. I deprive S15 of computers and video games also when there is a reason. I always give a warning, but don't feel bad if I have to do that. It's the perfect punishment, really painful to S15, but really depriving them of computer & video games is probably good for them occasionally.
Personally, I think you should make the rules in your house and W shouldn't have anything to do with them. She shouldn't be making rules in your house or you making rules in her house. Esp. since she kind of sounds like a control freak. Unless it's a safety issue or something dangerous, which I don't think Wii would count! I am bummed that my H lets S15 play adult-rated violent games like Halo at his house which he knows he will never do at mine! And he has OW over there with the kids all the time. I'm just hoping having one decent parent will be enough!!!
