Lots of positives in that last post. You have done exactly what we described, created a safe environment and she feels comfortable opening up to you. See how she is interpreting it as you being happier than ever, when you are suffering through this at the same time? It is all a matter of her perception.
Don't give up. The validation you have put into practice is getting results, keep it going.
Maybe she is sleeping down there just to relieve the discomfort. Don't take it personally, it is what it is. Accept it and then there wont be any frustration for her to sense. She is not doing anything to you by going down there, you are choosing to get frustrated over it. Try to break free of having your emotions being attached to her actions and you will be in a much healthier place in your R. You can still love and be loved without each others moods depending on every little move the other makes.
SF
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
