Hi KenF: Glad to hear from you - uncanny timing in that I was just talking about you yesterday. You sound like you're doing well - like you're making the most of a very tough transition.
My first wife and I divorced in NJ and we settled on 50/50 joint custody - which ended up working out fine for us over the years...though, the main point is that she and I were both very much settled into our separate lives by that point (we were both just out of med school/grad school - so we took our time with the D until we could afford it - sort of).
Being mentally clearer and sleeping better are good signs - I know what you mean about having this stuff on your mind - how could you not? Especially when a D involves a child?
Keep healing...for me, it was painful - still is at times - but it's so very worth it.
