SC, I had to chuckle over your h's concern for your emotional state for the month of February. He's not actually thinking about your emotional state 100%...he's projecting on to you how he's going to feel about the reminders. He's actually the one who will have difficulty with all of the reminders that February brings.
I'm glad to see that you and your h are able to talk about things. This is good. Him working on the house is good as well. As for the drinks, etc., that's dating in our eyes, but let him go on and think it's not.
I'm glad to see he's involved w/your son. Your son is at an age where he really does need his father in his life. Yes, SC, your h's actions do speak louder than words.
You sound like you are in a good place right now. It took a while, but you've gotten there. I do think this calm and serene place has helped your situation w/you and your h. Keep the communication channels open. You've done an excellent job of listening and being there for your h.
Keep thinking positive, for the world is there to embrace you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
