Matilda, It's a confusing time. On the one hand my W is resuming her sleeping elsewhere pattern. On the other hand, she complains that I'm having too good a time dancing with other ladies, and that I need to smile more with her. She's sleeping elsewhere while keeping an eye on me.
The difficult dance in which I imploded, when the sleeping elsewhee restarted has affected her a great deal. She's afraid to be in a close space with me.
I have to work on not being distracted by the sleeping elsewhere, and focus on our R and on myself. Last year, she slept elsewhere and was indifferent to me. This time, she seems to want to connect but is afraid to.
My therapist thinks I tolerate too much, and keeps recommending setting strong limits. I guess it's helpful to hear alternative solutions. If I experiment with his approach, I'd have to be willilng to live with the consequences.
She's asking for respectful communication, so I will provide it. She seems to be working on some of her issues in her own way.
I keep filling-up my Ipod with Buddhist podcasts to keep me grounded. You can download many of them for free from ITunes.
I've committed to meet with my IC bi-weekly.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 02/15/0912:57 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
