When he first moved out, we were still talking. He would still call me up once a week to ask how the kids were, tell me about his work and just chat a little bit. I acted 'as if' but a few times I got mad because his work would call and would put me in a tough spot to lie for him. After a couple of bad phone calls he withdrew even more. Now he doesn't even call once a week anymore and he doesn't talk about his life very much because he is trying to shut me out.
But made progress, last week he actually opened up a little bit after not doing so for a long time. Don't know if he is flip-flopping or was it my sexy dress? Don't know. If I don't know what I am doing right, how can I replicate it?
I feel that going dark has backfired. He gets really mad when I go out when he is with kids. He withdraws from me for a long time. But if I stay around then I am letting him eat cake but then he would relax a little by the end of his day and talk about himself just a little. So do I go out and leave him with the kids or do I stay and try to see if he reaches out to me?
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
