Well, man, I feel like I got run through a wringer today. Didn't really do anything, but am TIRED and worn out.
We went to the game, and W showed up with OM and BFF. Man, that is one ugly dude - I mean, if your wife goes off with some hunk, you just have to swallow your pride, and face up to it - but good Lord, it makes me nauseous. He must have the BEST personality in the world!
S6's game had JUST started, so we all got up, grabbed kids, and left. I stuck to my guns, and I'm so happy I did. It really really sucked - of course D8 and S6 are wailing and crying their eyes out, and I explained to them, "I told Mommy last night TWO times that if she brought OM, we would leave. It was Mommy's choice whether you played or not."
So D8 asked me if she could text W, and I said sure, and she told her we were going to Magic Mountain (a fun indoor gym here). W said she hoped they had fun, and she was really sorry that she didn't get to see the kids play. S6's game started at 3, and we left around 3:05pm.
D8 was supposed to cheer at 5pm, and, this is so unbelievable. W texted me at 4:55pm saying she was waiting on D8 to cheer, and was she going to be there!
I cannot fathom where her brain is - unless OM left.
So, my mom, dad, me, D8, and S6 had gone bowling and were actually at the bowling alley - so I just texted back "She didn't want to." I actually told D8 we would go back and let her cheer, if OM would leave, but she said she didn't want to.
I guess apparently W thought that I was just making a funny joke or something when I said last night, "Let me be perfectly clear: if he comes, we will leave."
But the VERY BEST part of it is this: She texted D8: "OM, BFF and I took the day off JUST to see you and S6 play. NO OTHER reason."
Yeah, you just HAPPENED to take off Valentine's Day, and just HAPPENED to be spending ONLY 2 hours of the day with your kids, and you weren't going to do ANYTHING with OM? Good Lord, how stupid do you think we are?
The worst thing is that my heart was breaking - W can't afford to take off another day, and she won't get another chance ALL season to see them play. I was so happy she was going to come see them, and I truly do want her to be able to see them.
Of course, now I'm going to spend 3 weeks getting my kids back, because starting Monday all they're going to hear is what a bad guy I am for taking them away. I can hear it now, "I came to see you, but Daddy made you leave, and I was so sad, and so was OM and BFF."
Well, as Silva confirmed with me - it isn't easy doing the right thing.
Nope its not easy doing the right thing. I am sorry she actually brought OM. She is really out there.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Damn, JDOllie, you are surely being tested. My heart breaks that she's putting the children in the middle of her mess and that OM must not have any brain cells - showing up with another man's woman in public, in front of you and your family?! He's very lucky you are calm, controlled, and classy. You did the right thing. Proud of you.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Argh {{{{{{{JD}}}}}}}} as soon as I read the you are being tested from silver I was like "CRAP..she brought him"..but you know what, it sounds like you had a GREAT day anyway and I'm so glad you did what you thought was best..sigh..hate it for you my friend, but glad you are a person you can still look at in the mirror
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
We have had a great evening - we went and bought Princess Bride, and I got S6 a new pair of tennis shoes. He has been making it by on snow boots, but that sucks to just play in, so I got him a pair.
Mammaw, of course, spoiled them by buying them some other stuff. It's funny, I bought S6 a bow and rubber-suction-tipped arrows for Valentine's Day (cupid?) and he LOVES them. He won't put them down - I see them stuck to windows, the TV, pictures.
We all watched the movie, and ate popcorn, and snuggled. D8 made everyone move so she could sit by ME - oh be still my heart.
Then I did our special I love you sign: 1. Point to eye 2. Cross arms over chest 3. Point to other person And she did the I love you MORE sign back 1-3 4. Tap finger tips together.
OH, I'm so happy right now. I thought that it would make me start from scratch with the kids, but they have been super close. I have been freaking out mostly because I can't really explain why I'm doing what I'm doing on their level, but I just told them they would understand someday.
Oh, and I sent an email to 3 guys I know - told them I had sort of let my social life slide, and I wanted to start a "guy's night out" on Thursdays. I felt sort of weird honestly - didn't seem like a manly thing. But ALL THREE were excited, and thought it would be awesome, and Thursday worked for all three of them. The one is my small group leader at church - I have shared with him a little bit of my problems with W, and when he responded, he said, "I appreciate you more than you know".
I feel so loved. My aunt/prayer partner said she didn't sleep almost at all last night thinking about me, and what I was going through. She found out my mom and dad came up, and she called me just SOBBING - tears of joy. She said that she had been hurting so badly for me.
My cousin texted me just out of the blue - said, "Happy Vday, and I love all three of you in your own special way."
I totally do not deserve all of this - I'm blessed beyond words. I feel strong, and focused.
What Satan meant for evil, God meant for good.
I'm absolutely flabbergasted. As Tawnya forced me to say last night, I'm gonna be OK!
wow I just spent over an hour reading different parts of your 3 threads and I know one thing for sure your kids will be fine cause You are a great dad. You are in my prayers.
Me 41 W 44 Together 7 years Married 6 Bomb Dec 2 08
How are things today? Hope you and your family had a great Vday.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
