I decided to do exactly what I wanted to. I laid in bed, read a book for a while "How Can I Get Through to You". Interesting read.
H called & said he was headed home from work, I told him I was just headed out.
I took S9 shopping for his favorite thing in the world Bakugan...... lol I took him to our favorite car wash, they have wax that is 3 colors & smells like big stick popsicles. We are both easily amused.
Then I dropped him off, & went & got my nails done.
Came back, picked up D14 & we went to our favorite place in the neighborhood.... Target. LOL
We got her some new ipod ear buds, & a t-shirt for valentine's day. Then I took her to get a frozen yogurt with fresh berries. We talked. I told her a few of the wild & crazy things I did before I was married & her mom. Like riding a mechanical bull for 10 full seconds, & snowmobiling up the biggest baddest vertical mountain I'd ever seen. I told her that I had given up a lot of myself in this relationship & that I didn't want her to do that, & I didn't want her to learn that from me.
She opened up & told me a few things about her new boyfriend.
I gave her some of my best mom advice.....call me anytime from anywhere & you'll have a safe ride home, no questions asked and no lecture.
I also told her that no matter what happened with her dad & I, I would not take her away from her school, her friends, her environment. She thanked me & seemed 100% relieved.
By that time we were headed back home, talking about her plans for the night. A group of them wanted to go see Friday the 13th.....
It was really great. The Hi's are very hi & the Low's are very low. Opposition in all things.
Now, I'm climbing in bed with a glass of blackberry merlot, & a good book.
I'm happy when I'm in charge of me & my decisions & choices.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
