My H is a complete workaholic too!! Our whole life, he has been a guy who always had to be doing something "productive". He always have several projects going. And it's not that he's a couch potato and doesn't ever do them. It's that he is never satisfied with the "status quo". And he always hated the fact that I liked to curl up with a good book, or watch a sappy movie. He thought it was a waste of time......
Hang in there, [[[[[SC]]]]]. You deserve happiness!! I think that making plans and not worry so much about your H may be ok, because perhaps your H doesn't like to feel like he's holding back your fun. Maybe if you talked to him and told him that you want him to join you, and don't want to exclude him at all, but that you don't want to resent him anymore either, so you are going to do what makes you and the kids happy, and you will let him know what you are doing so he can join, but you won't count on it.
Remember, GAL'ing is a good thing!!!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
