-H wants no contact for a month. This month included Valentines Day, our 26th anniversary, my birthday, and the 28th anniversary of our first meeting. Says he thinks that will be easier on me because it's an "emotional time"......ain't he such a sensitive guy!!! But, actually he's probably right. I don't want to be around him now.
-H is handling finances and probably going to file for bankruptcy, but has been good about this part of the sitch really. He thinks because we have two households (because we are seperated) that we can possibly save both (we have the house in town we have lived in which needs a LOT of work, and we have the dream house on 40 acres built out in the county which we just finished contstuction on last summer). H had agreed in past to sell that house if we D because there is so much emotion there for me, but now he says he has no immediate plans to file for D, and that he never plans to M again, and he hopes that we can both just own the houses and get along and both of us use it when we want. Of course this is actually good for both of us, because we don't want to sell the property in the current market.
-H has started "dating", although he says he wouldn't call it that....it's just drinks with good company.....no commitments at all.
-Our S17 has been making poor decisions about school and "substances" and hanging around with some kids who we feel are a bad influence. But, S17 has agreed to "substance abuses" treatment. His over-all attitude with me has improved. H had seemed to be ready to drop S17, but then he turned around and has "made the first move" and spent some good time with S17, so his actions speak louder than his words I hope.
-I am pretty content in my new little apartment with my son. However, H has been working on the house, and says if we can swing it with bankruptcy, we may be able to keep the house and he will finish the repairs on it and I can live there, so "we only have the two houses to pay for"??? I guess I wouldn't mind that really.......so long as the repairs are done.
-I really have little to complain about at this point. There are lots of positives in my life. So, I am embracing one day at a time, and will cross bridges as I come to them.
-I want to thank each and every one of you, my friends, here on these boards! Every single day it seems, I am comforted and inspired by the many friends I've made here! You have seen me through so very many rough patches, most of which I have brought on myself, and you haven't judged, but offered support, comfort and understanding (and the occaisional 2x4 ) You guys are the very best, and I can't thank you enough for being there for me!!
I love you all!!!
Onward and Upward!!
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TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Of course this is actually good for both of us, because we don't want to sell the property in the current market.
) You guys are the very best, and I can't thank you enough for being there for me!! 
