I want you to read Puppy Dog Tails thread. He also posted under Chocolateeyes in the beginning. He took a real hardline approach with full exposure to his wife, the affair partner and their kids. It definitely worked for him. While it sits wrong with some, I feel like in some instances it is the best. He is posting all over, but if you send up a smoke signal, he will come and give you help on this approach.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7