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Hey Aud, no apologies necessary, of course. We all get busy, and at our stage of peiceing, I think it's different and harder to find the motivation to post. So, thanks.

Here are a couple of my quick thoughts: 1) maybe somethings have to be acted on and not talked or thought about. So the separation my W and I are going through make it tough. We just need to be together to see how things work. 2) you can only do so much with yourself, by yourself. Much of these sitches concern working on the relationship. You can only do that (most of it, anyway) IN the relationship, not just thinking on your own. 3) GAL, etc is really important - then comes another hard part, GAL With someone else.

I'm still trying to figure out what I need, what I'm looking for. Yes, fairy tale was simplistic, but I'm not willing to settle for a lack of passion (do women find it easier to give up that passion than men?). There is a right answer for me, a path that goes away from the false infatuation and the resignation of age, and finds a middle way that has aspects of passion and comfort and choice.

I've had a lot of resignation and indifference, and I've thought a lot about ending the whole M/R. Don't you still think and feel that way sometimes? But I think I've made my choice, and I'm stinking it out, fighting, struggling for my M and R. Sometimes I feel optimistic. I'm also giving myself permission to change my mind if I need to. I don't want to, but I can. It will always be a choice. Each day, a new choice, to stay Married, be in love. Some days will be easier than others, and I hope the easy days start coming soon. :-)

My co-workers are going through marital problems (is anybody happy?). I see them making the mistakes I made and I want to yell don't do it, change, think, look, see, before it's too late. Could they hear me, would they understand, or do we have to go through it ourselves in order to understand?

Happy VD day!! What an evil holiday, but I'll toast to Venus, Aphrodite, Cupid, and the rest. Here's to LOVE.