\My wife is going to leave me in 5 days--help!

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Melissa,

ARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!! I wish I wasn't such an idiot. I get everything and I mean everything way too late including this. I really honestly think she was just fed up with not getting the love and attention over the years. I feel so guilty. She told me that she felt guilty the whole time while she was on the cruise with my family while I was in Iraq. I have made it so she can't enjoy her life--I know, I know you can only make yourself happy. Well, we went out for dinner tonight. Pretty uneventful, she seemed so cross but so nice to me. Made me want to scream. Asked me if I had new clothes on. I had to buy some as I lost about 25 pounds in the desert. I said yep, I got them on sale today. She said to spend your money on what you want to, I don't care anymore--ouch! She told me she went out shopping for a bed today. My daughter came and told me that the reason she doesn't like to talk about what's going on is she doesn't like it--duh! I asked her if she was ok and and asked her if she wanted Mommy to move out--she didn't say no! WTF??? I asked her why--she said she wasn't here that much anyway. My wife told me tonight that she had been to the resturaunt we ate at while I was gone. I said who with? She said by herself? I said how often did you go out to eat by yourself? She said she spent as much time away from home as possible--didn't want to deal w/ all the stuff piling up at home. It has been hell getting my daughter to even clean up her room but I will put her in check tomorrow. Maybe she does need her space... She said in the car on the way home that I needed to remember all the nice things I was doing lately for the next special person that came along. I told her I wasn't interested in anyone else. She said not yet but you will be eventually. Whatever!!!!! I wish I could read womens mind like Mel Gibson in What Women Want. Would be useful in this situation. Well accomplishments tonight include:
Dressing up nice, shaved and wore cologne(I never did that before)
rubbed her back at dinner when she was cold
looked at her in the eye when she spoke to me
didn't actively pursue, beg, plead, whine, etc.

I keep trying to be optimistic--even laughed a few times tonight. I know this is gonna take a lot of work. And I still don't get it!