Good Luck at MC, it's GREAT that you found a solution based counselor. It's also great that you are here as early in the process as you are. I wasted 6 months or more doing all the wrong things before I found this site and Michele's books. I just hope I can undo all that damage that has been done in the meantime, and with the 2 failed MC encounters we went through.
Thank you for reading about my sitch and commenting. I really appreciate the kindness and wisdom of everyone here, it's so uplifting during such a painful time.