Midwestern Girl 2/05/09

[Holly06]

Friends,

I am a good friend of MWG. We talk all the time. I have some insight into all this that I would like to share with you all.
MWG is not behind this post. Just me.

First of all, Snodderly, please do not stop posting to MWG. She so admires and is encouraged by your thoughts. I know you truly care for her well being. Your insight is so valuable to her. Please stay active with your attention to my friend.

Now lets talk about these boards. Any viewpoint and advice needs to be given with the understanding that it
CAN be put into practice or rejected, but always appreciated. It is only given out of love and concern. It is a personal choice that no one would take away from anyone. I myself have given her lots of advice but always know she may reject it. She appreciates the options that it presents to her. Please understand if she appear to not take our advice. She doesn't take mine either, and I still keep giving it!!!! And that is just fine with me. I know she appreciates it, but chooses her own path. We just show her other possibilities.

We talk at length about the seriousness of her financial situation. She is aware, and trying to make the best situation out of a dismal one.
MWG takes her children into consideration. They give her advice too, and frankly I believe they have a stake in this, as this is their future well being too. They see that there is really nothing that MWG can do to really impact H. I am impressed with the insight these young people seem to have and want the family back together too.
She also speaks to an old friend of her H. He has some background in mental health care, and says there is nothing she can do. Just wait and be patient.
I spent a long time last night helping her outline her choices. We talked about possible outcomes of all of them. I left the choice to her, because, it is her life.
And I must also say that if she took advice that I wanted her to take,and it failed, I would be responsible. I do not want that burden. It has to be her choice.
There are many facets to her situation that are too involved to post here, but I can assure you she IS trying to move this forward as quickly and ethically as she can. I only trust that God will clarify the pathway that follows His Will. That is how MWG will be most peaceful with the outcome of this journey.
So, in summary, please keep posting to MWG. But let's allow her to chose her own path. If it works she will be responsible. If it doesn't she will be able to live with the consequences because she walked with God.
Peace and Poledancing,
HOooly