Insane day today... an insane evening last night... you'd have thought the moon was full this weekend instead of last weekend.
W has been having a fit over the list of items I put in a formal demand now that our house has been sold (last November). The list was relayed via the L's. It lists things like a couple of extra kitchen chairs placed in storage and a whole slew of toys, clothing and other gifts given to our sons by me and my side of the family. W has been castigating me thoroughly, trying to make it sound like I was robbing our children, when the reality is that they have been hoarded over at W's place by piecemeal -- items like stuffed animals and other cherished favorites have been flowing out of my place and never returning from W's.
But W is treating me like a monster for suggesting that the items given to our sons by my family and friends reside here instead. Oh, yes, it's all contrived, I know. She is trying to build a propaganda campaign to demonize me before everyone.
And she has the gall to say I am depriving my S's of the Wii. S8 had a fair week, but not a great week at school, and the rule was he had to have a good week before he would be allowed to play on the Wii on the weekend. So she had S8 all in a lather about the possibility of not getting to play the game system, and that I was being too hard-nosed and strict. At the same time she wants to imply I was a bad parent for rewarding our S's for having an exemplary day earlier in the week and completing all their responsibilities, by playing a game on a "school night".
Last evening I was not feeling well and had gotten home late from work, so I told S8 over the phone that I would pack up the Wii and bring it down this morning but not that very night.
Much as I am despising W for her overreaching entitlement to a game system I gave to my S's this past Christmas, and to make it sound like she's doing it solely for their benefit alone, not just to "stick it to me" yet again, I made good on my promise to deliver the Wii this morning.
If I never see that gift again either, I don't care. This is not about stuff as she wants to accuse me of. It's about the principles of fairness, decorum and civility. It's about right and wrong and about what's best for our children.
There have been a lot of heated emails today between us because of these issues. I can guarantee she's going to try to use whatever I have said against me in a court of law, should she make good on that threat. But I am tired of her allowing the evil blackness that has pervaded her heart to lead to such abusive and nasty behaviors. I am not backing down anymore, my back's already against the wall, and if I should happen to lose my kids over this (God forbid), then I will be able to at least face them in the eye some day.
I'll be glad when this stage of the process is over with.
But as for the list of items, whatever. I got a few of them back from W already, and I'm not going to die if I don't get them all back any how. As I told W in one of the emails today, her conniption fit over these items just proves to me how materialistic and petty she has become, not to mention willing to exploit her own children in an attempt to harm me further.
