My Sad WAH Story: Is there Hope?

[MomInPain]

Puppy,

Sorry I made you cry, Vday sucks this year. Tell your wife I said thank you for sharing. lol We are in WA state.

Ok so here's how he figured out CS and Alimony. He did the CS worksheet with an A during a free consultation. From that he figured he would have to pay about 850 a month for 2 kids. Then he took that figure and added what would equal the house payment after our refi goes through. So spousal support is 650 a month.
Now I receive 900 a month for SS disability so I'd have to be able to pay all of our bills plus food with 1100 a month.

Here's the thing though. With our refi, there is no equity in the home. There are about 15,000 in work that needs to be done before we can even think about selling. I can't afford or even have the ability to do this work myself.

This leaves me feeling stuck and getting the shaft.

Why? Because the reason our refi mortgage is at 160,000 is because the last equity loan we took out paid off both vehicles and 2 credit cards. So I get a house with 0 equity and he gets all of the toys minus my car and no house payment. He doesn't have to worry about upkeep, or finishing the playhouse he started building for his kids. He doesn't have to worry about the rotting floor in the bathroom or the black mold on the ceiling.

I have a lot of thinking to do. One choice is not taking his offer and moving into a rental with my kids. He would gladly take this offer, of course. Taking care of a house isn't a problem for mr. manly. DAM.
Another choice is trying to squeeze more $$ out of him.
And another choice is to own the house together and work on it together and once we sell it split the equity. ?? That way I know the work will get done.

God if he would just pull his head out of his ass he would see what a huge mistake he is making. Just stick with us for a couple more years until I finish school. Things always get better in time. Why can't he see that? Once I graduate I'll be able to completely support us, I could be his sugar mama! I could take care of him for a change.

I'm tired, I'm sick. I don't want to do this anymore.