Get the 2x4s I had plans to go to a martini bar for an informal birthday party for one of the girls at work. Ok trying to get a life. Well the bar was very very close to the OW house in that neck of the city.
I decide to drive by on the way there. Yes, yes, I know why would I put myself through that. I do not have a good answer for that except maybe she was in the trash can put out to the curb.
I see the secret van that my H drives to her house parked in front (he drops off his car and picks up this van -- great lengths to hid this A because of work and D). There is a car in the driveway that is the OW's D. The house is lit up and the backyard is all lit up. I hear the grandkids yelling and running in the backyard. One big happy family that my H is now a part of. I felt sickened by it.
Still went to the party and made obligatory drinks and left. I really was crushed. Don't care how much exposure is done to OW family -- they don't care. Just accept my H into their household and he could be part of their family.
What do they call him uncle - grandpa...WTH. I really do feel like the abandoned BS.
Now it is VD and he is with her making a new life. Where are the cards and flowers that H brought each me and our girls that day. Where is the family dinner we went for either breakfast, brunch. H sent a text message to his 2 girls. Big deal.
OW will get my flowers, jewelry whatever. She will have the romantic day with a special card, romantic first VD (hope she gets that)and my H. I know it will be fueled with alcohol because now it is the "fun" thing they do. I hope he throws up on her sexy dress.
Today I am using this board to really vent. I can't talk to family or my girls about this.
I know it is one day but it was "our day". My heart is very broken.
Do want to mention, I was laying down and doorbell rang. Got up and threw on a pair of jeans and went to the door.. NO ONE was there. First thought was maybe H had flowers sent for D15. But no one was driving away, walking away from the house. I thought maybe I dreamed it but dog heard it to and was whining at the door. Very very weird.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
