I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Just wanted to say hello and that I'm reading. Great story of your friends, BTW!
One thing I wondered- you mentioned in one of your posts that your friend said that you want H bac so badly that you think about it a lot (or something to that effect?). I wonder, could you be transmitting some of that want to your H at all? They can smell these things, so I've heard so I'm just wondering if working hard on detaching and not thinking about his coming home migh help things a bit....
I'm working on the detachment but, being the slow learner, I'm not very successful. sigh. Many times I fooled myself into thinking that I've done it and then I'd start all that stupid "wanting" again. At the moment I feel good, though. Let's hope it will last.
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Stella, Your friend's situation was quite a lot like JeanS' situation a few years back. Notice how they come and go and each time, bring a little bit more back home. It's almost like a reversal of what they did when they left.
It's an inspiring story and it happens each and every day, just as your friend shared w/you. Some return immediately and others tend to creep and haul things back piece meal.
Thank you for sharing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My H has gone dark recently and I do not expect him on my doorstep carrying suitcase anytime soon. But I cannot help imagining things like that and I wonder if I would pass the test?
I think my friend handled it marvelously, with great strength and great wisdom.
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Stella, Your friend did a beautiful job of handling her situation.
One never knows how they will handle such a situation until the day it happens.
Keep the light burning in the window to help him find his way home and soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I will keep the light in the window and I hope the moth will get attracted !
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Stella, dont beat yourself up to much for feeling like you do. Your h is giving you mixed signals. I feel like newbie often and then I remember what the oldtimers told me then.
I say it to myself, it helps. No expectations, no R talk, GAL, PMA, do not initiate contact and if he does keep it short.
I think I am going to put it to music and make a song of it.
I'm a bit blue today, so I've written a long and whiny post, then I've got disgusted with myself and deleted it.
I spoke with D18 - she's fine, Kalni, thanks! - and she said she wants her family. And I also spoke with H (he called) and he said he was worried about me and asked whether I'm going to be at home tomorrow. He's going to be in the neighbourhood and wants to stop by. And I said NO, I'm not. No yanking my chain anytime soon, thanks (didn't say that, of course).
Nothing new, really.
Beginners, no expectations, no R talk, not initiating contact and keeping it short is easy for me right now. GAL and PMA is a bit of a problem.
I wonder why does it take me so long to get better?
(((everybody)))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
and I wonder if I would pass the test? 
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