H has officially filed. Please help me!!!!!

[Silent Chrleader]

....he did notice my changes quite soon after he left. Then he just turned cold. Hasn't said a nice thing to me since.

I'm at a loss, could be that he's just to far gone. ?? IDK

I think it's more likely that he just got scared so he scurried back into his hole.

-Scared of the "good" feeling he had for you, but not trusting it.
-Scared of history repeating itself
-Scared of facing the fact that he may be making a mistake
-Scared of facing the guilt for tearing apart his family.
-Scared of letting go of his newfound "freedom" after going through such pain to get it.....
-Scared that your changes are just an effort to get him back, and they won't last if he comes home.

This happened with my H too. In August thru October of last year, we were sort of "dating".....or rather "friends with benefits". And then several, and then his high school reunion was was not as "cathartic" as he hoped it would be, and his sister died, and the secret of his PA came out. And he ran for cover. He peeked out a little in early December mostly because of guilt and duty, but I was still too emotional over everything, and he was so tight and closed off, so we couldn't sustain it. And he high tailed back to his hole and hasn't come out since.....

Pleast take care of YOU and your kids, MIP!! Patience and kindness to yourself is the key!

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