When H & I first married, I thought he was the healthy one. I thought he would rescue me & we'd be together forever.

I now realize, we have to rescue ourself. No one can rescue us, they can only irritate us enough to make us want to
rescue ourself. ;\)

I have rescued myself. I do feel whole, complete, happy & secure with myself & my decisions. I feel that I am taking the
time to throughly think things through. I am being patient to look at things from all angles.

H & I talked very briefly last night. His focus seems to be talking to HIS counselor about MY stuff.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.