time for a new thread, i'm not in the same place i was before.
Hard to believe its been so long since my last post. time flies when you're dealing with the sitch.
still progressing towards the divorce. nothing has changed in that aspect. the paperwork has been submitted to the state, i've compiled all my financial information and given it to my lawyer. the next step will be the toughest, sitting down and dividing the assets and agreeing on custody.
as far as custody, we've been pretty consistent with a 50/50 split. we've been able to work out special occasions, days she cant watch our daughter, or swapping weekends for birthdays.
we're pretty good on nightly phone calls to say good-night, although the stbx has chosen not to call on many nights. i've been very careful to never miss one of her calls and have never denied her her chance to talk to our D. I cant understand why the stbx wouldnt call, but not dwelling on it.
my biggest fear now is that i'm missing something, or that my lawyer will miss something that bite me later. i know custody i wont agree to less than 50/50 physical and legal custody. but stbx wants Primary, not sure if thats something i should fight over. I dont want her to claim that because she has primary she can move our daughter from our current daycare, or change her name, etc.
any advice would be greatly appreciated.
finances are what they are. numbers are numbers, cant change basic math. just need to watch how they play out and deal with it then. i dont want to put too much mental effort into worrying.
as far as me, i'm doing much better. mentally clearer, sleeping better, and while its always in my mind, it doesnt always take front row. reconnecting with old friends, love the FB, got a pleasant surprise from an old co-worker that confessed she used to have a crush on me. she's happily married now, but thats not important, just a nice little ego boost.
so i'm good, and getting better. i dont have the fears i did, my mind is healing. and i miss being here.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
