I don't blame you. Remember don't do anything she can use against you later. I know you won't, but just think before you do anything.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Oh, I won't - OM is beneath even my consideration of that, to be honest!
I'm handing this over to God - I will not be consumed by this, I am doing so well.
It has been a blip in my control - something that I'm sure will happen again, but it is a lesson learned to recognize these moments and prepare myself for them.
Tawnya gave me this great quote: "she knows she's losing control with your going dark, she knew it would push your button, no matter how sweet and innocent she is acting like it is..and it is totally working..so now..she gets control back"
Well, she may have won a single evening, but no more!
Thank you so much for your response. It means alot to me that you shared that. It helps me it really does.
I want to say that your W is a fool to not see the wonderful man that you are and what you have done to improve over the last few months. You have not only improved yourself but you have a wonderful relationship with your kids and that bond is only getting stronger. Your kids will admire you and be very proud of you.
Believe me I understand the feeling of ALWAYS loving your spouse but the kids come first ALWAYS and I ADMIRE YOU for that. I don't know if my situation will ever move from the spot I am in now but I will love my H forever.
Keep up the good work and continue to pray either way. Like you said it is in Gods hands and only he knows what the plan is.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
HAPPY V-DAY my friend - keep in touch with me "K"
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
D8 told me this morning she wanted to call W and tell her not to have OM come - she really wants to cheer. I had told her that if he came, we would leave. I told her after W and I weren't married, W can do what she wishes.
D8 was very upset last night - mad at me - of course, I'm the bad guy!
So then this morning, I was holding her on my lap, and she was just cuddling me. Then we sat on the couch and she was just patting my back. We have a little thing of telling each other we "love you 500 billion", and she said that. Whew, she still loves me! It was so hard last night!
Then, my mom and dad called me at 9:00, and said they were on their way up! Complete surprise! They love me!
It is going to be so funny - W has completely shut out all of my family, her old friends, people from our church, etc - I imagine seeing them causing huge amounts of guilt. When she sees my Mom and Dad - she is going to DIE! I imagine she will probably leave rather than stay there with them around, and bear the guilt.
This day is already getting better! So many people are praying - and I can feel it...
