2009 - The Craziness Continues

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Mediation update. Thot I'd give ou all a flavour of what is happening.

As of now, we are leaving the kids in the house and splitting our time there on a 2 day rotation. K's are on a break next week so a good time to be starting a 4/4 rotation. So far so good on that. Were not supposed to have another meeting until Feb 27, but W wanted one yesterday.

Main thing was financial crap. Mediator(M)told me prior to starting(in a 1 on 1) that W had seen lawyer and was ready to go to court to get me to give her $$ if we didn't agree today. I have been paying all house / family expenses and W does have own modest income to get cash but not enough for her liking.

M said some "good" things. Planted the bug in W "if you are entitled to spousal support" (I laughed inside because W had always thought this was her entitlement). M also said there was no way she should be thinking she should be getting me to pay her something while things are still intermingled. W thought that I should be paying for all the kids things, period! Wanted $$ to be able to give to the k's if needed. When I suggested she could also help out in this she said no, not fair cuz she also needs personal $$ to live.

Biggest pain came at the end. 2 things. First, I asked if the newer vehicle (8 passenger)could stay at house with kids as it is a larger vehicle (other one is only a 5 passenger). Response - why? What needed for? How come? I explained more seats so kids could take friends. She asked when that happened (that kids couldn't take friends) and I actually had an instance for her from last week. "I'll get back to you" was the reply.

Next one was re: house for today. Started with W asking if I was taking k's for a trip during break? I advised that no, we are staying here. W said they are going to her parents out of town. I asked when - tomorrow (Sat).

ME: Ok, then I will stay at house if ok with you.

W flipped - why do you want to do that? Just had house cleaned (cleaners she has not yet cancelled and I am still paying for)- don't want it messed up.

Back + forth. Me asking why i shouldnt stay - her saying house is hers on her days. Me saying no it is the kids and since no one will be there why shouldn't I stay. Her denying me access.

Me finally "losing it" and saying "I will be staying in the house". Her saying "I will not be bullied in this". She yelled at me (in front of M) and packed her stuff and left (meeting was over anyway).

Talked to M after. I know I shouldnt have said things the way I ultimately did - he agreed. He also thought it made sense that I stay in the house if they are not there.

Werent supposed to have the meeting yesterday but W requested it. Pain in the butt.

I will update you from the house tonight!