Keep up your good thoughts and positive direction. I totally agree with you about the LRT. You really have to be at that point to implement it, if you try to implement and then back off of it, you're doomed.
I know the waiting and wondering are difficult, been there. But please know that whatever happens w/your husband, your life will still be wonderful and amazing. Keep your focus on you and your children. You, and only you, will know when you're ready for what comes next.