HAPPY VDAY TO YOU ALL))))))))))))) No other place have I found so many commitment and love filled people as here, who went through trials of fire--I pray that you come out stronger and with peace in your hearts, that each level of your individual Everests brings you closer to find that peace that surpasses all understanding.
Me: keeing busy, my place looks great, busted my butt taking wallpaper off & painting, having some single parents over for vday tomorrow, bought some roses, I'm feeling great.
Kids: Son is doing much better, the C is golden, helps so much, it is little d5 who is now projecting and hating going to stbx. C helped deal with their moods, to acknowledge their hurt and to redirect them, told son today we all know dad did wrong and it hurt, but that he it is ok to love dad even if he hates what the did. I held back tears, have not cried in months, only my kids' hurt hurts me now. But over all they are happy as clams with me.
The rest: stbx has submitted D paperwork, I got the stuff, will have it reviewed by someone even though all was nailed down on the sep. agreement. Signing is just a formality, the worst is over (S for good last yr, learning to not have kids around). So signing that piece of paper means nothing to me now. Will be D in 2wks or so.
Stbx is even deeper in debt, gf tries to pick fights indirectly and tries to destroy the communication stbx and I have over kids, talks to him as he is talking to me to tell him what to say. Last sunday she txted me as him, was just pushing buttons and being a total jerk, I didnt' take the bait. I wont' be answering txts when he's off, only calls. Kids hate her food and d5 cries when her hair is combed by gf, I dont' like it but in the whole scheme of things there are worse things. Her d9 isn't here yet, s10 dreading it, I'm sure there will be squables...C teaching s10 to cope.
Slowly but surely making it my "normal happy mode" one that now involves being a single mother, it's taking its time, but I'm working hard at making my default happy mode one in which I love my life with the kids, the 3 of us.
Ok, this is getting too long, lol, hugs to all of you)))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
