Standing on the Edge

[AJM]

Hey native, I'm surprised to see how much in common I see in your WAS behavior. My situation is a bit different - we're in the same house still.

But the evil twin, or as I refer to her, Sybill 1-10, behavior is soooooo familiar.

I am taking a similar approach too, although I'm coming at it slowly. My thoughts are similar - if you are ready to walk away, you no longer get beaten down and lose your own self-esteem. The risk is that you may not want to come back. Or in my case, you may not be willing to let her come back when she tries. I suspect you get that same feeling - i.e. do you really want her to come back sometimes. Especially when she won't even take care of herself AND beats you down as much as possible.

I think you have to be patient just like you are. I think you've proven that works. I think you'll need to let this slide off and wait a few days. I suspect that WAS will be different again. She will if you wait a few days.

I also think you may not want to give her any money. I think that reminds her of the incompetence of managing money and the rest of her life. The chocs and flowers were a good idea, but she, like my WAS may need to hit rock bottom. The only question you'll have to answer is whether or not you'll be there when she does. I think like me, you've already answered that question - you'll be there in some way.

Meanwhile, GAL. From your threads it looks like that works for you two.

I also appreciate seeing you have that success. I'm inspired and unfortunately for you, feel like we're going through similar when it comes to the way our WAS is acting.

Keep it up!

AJ