Understand the question of waiting. I go back and forth on this issue in my stitch. I have good reasons to go either way. Mostly I thought I would allow him to get the D if he wants one, or leave if he wanted to. But there are times when it becomes sooooo dysfunctional to stay together - whether under the same roof or not. I admire your determination to make the kids a priority. You will either move forward or not but obviously now is not the time. I share your concern about the kids seeing their mother dating a married man (do they know) because of the message it sends to them about M and commitment.
