I would say trying to get back to the confident, fun-loving person is the goal, not to suddenly try to be "Mr Sensitive Guy", who she is never met before and doesn't recognize. You can still do all the things we are recommending here, while re-discovering your old self.
Dealing with your anxiety will help this tremendously. You need to get to a place where you know you will be okay, no matter what happens.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
