Valentines Day

[K4D]

I struggled with this today. W said to do stuff for the daughters. Do I get W anything or not? Something small or not? Card? Flowers? Candy? Will it make her mad?

She has already filed for D and is waiting for me to get out of the house depending on if I get this job I am waiting to hear on.

I really want to get her something to show her I love her. But I'm not sure its a good idea. Will she be offended if I don't? Will she assume I no longer care? Is it a test? Will it make her happy if I don't?

Need advice.

Kevin

[Mellenmack]

KEVIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

!#!#!#@!@#!@#!#$#$####

DON'T YOU DARE!!!!!

Melissa

[Phoenixdeux]

Don't get her anything. Don't acknowledge the day to her. Don't say Happy V day. But do get your daughters something and gush on them.

[SingleDad]

Kevin - Do what you feel is right.

My pov is that if you love her you can express it, but do it gently - and have the card signed by you and your daughters - do not go overboard, do not make an issue of it... and do not expect anything in return.

Realize it will very likely make her mad - in the short run.. If you marriage is will be over anyway - what more can it hurt ? It will at least show her you care about her. And more important than anything else - you followed your conviction and can feel good about your decision - regardless of how she reacts to it.

Get your daughters cards as well - and take them out to dinner.

I got my WAW a Valentine's "friends" card and put both my name and my D3's name on it. - I made sure I did not use the "Love" word.