Being totally sure of himself was the key. He led me by example. He was so open with his intimacy and passion that it made me be brave, over time.
For instance, as I said above, maybe one fear of becoming too intimate is because you fear you will look silly in a moment of passion if you make weird noises or whatever. Well, he showed me exactly what it DOES look like when he really lets go and makes any noises or movements his body wants to make in that moment...and of course, it was beautiful to watch. It wasn't uncomfortable or strange at all....and yet, I feared it would be strange to HIM if I were the one to really let go? Of course it wouldn't look strange to him, it would be beautiful. This was obvious to me as he revealed himself to me and how much I loved seeing him truly let go, versus keep ahold of everything inside himself.
DQ,
This setting the example of totally opening up is something I'm really growing into. Its what Dr Robert Glover (NMMNG) calls "going all the way in" i.e. being absolutely present in the marriage and indeed life generally.
Its made a big difference in our last few encounters.
I think when she sees me physically and spiritually naked, entirely lacking any self-consciousness or fear, and totally passionate in my intent to ravish her, it triggers the same thing in her.
As you say, a lover enjoying us enjoying them, is truly a beautiful thing.
Enjoy Valentine's Weekend.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
